Being Single

"Kapan mau nikah? Udah pas loh umurnya."
"Ayolah, papa mama mu sudah pengen cucu tuh!"
"Cari cewek donk."

Marriage is somehow a must in this country, at least for the elders. I won't mind coming to wedding parties, I do enjoy family gatherings as well. There's a big BUT coming in.....

Lemme start with my simple question, when we ask someone (that is not really close to us) about his/her personal life, do we really care? Or are we just playing nice?

Though I don't like being asked about this kind of my personal life, I, well, try to be nice. So I smile and use this 'we-will-see' statement as a default answer.

I'm not saying I don't wanna be in a relationship. But I don't wanna be reckless. It's a lifetime matter, for my sake. Being single is an option, and for now I've chosen that path. I'm not ashamed of being single and I don't think it is an embarrassment for anyone.

The thing is I am happy now. You might ask what my parents think about this, whether they are okay with my being single or not. I tell you this, they understand.

I have been nice these times, but I'm getting tired being asked that foolish yet pretend-to-be-caring questions over and over. So, please, unless you can prove me that having a partner can make me happier than I am now, you'd better not ask me to find one nor worse, ask me when I will marry someone. Cause if you think you are nice by asking those, you are just wrong.